Unconscious mind and negative phrasing
Imagine that you see your child precariously picking up a glass of water and you shout at them “don’t spill that!!”. You know what’s next; water all over the floor.
NLP Meta Model
Each of us has an inner map of the world with rich connections between all the pieces. When we attempt to communicate with others, we’re limited by the words we use, which can’t possibly capture the richness of our internal map. As a result, we lose significant information as we try to communicate.
Perils of Why
In a coaching context, asking “why” questions can be problematic. They can often give results that we did not intend and should be used carefully and sparingly.
Power of words
The words we use are far more important than most people realize. They have the ability to make deep changes in unconscious behaviour in ourselves, and the people around us.
What’s wrong with the common Scrum questions?
Each day during standup, most teams will have every answer three questions. The questions most commonly asked are fairly poor and result in a undesirably bad meeting.
Brain Talk
Words direct attention. Some words will encourage superficial conversations while others will allow you to quickly get into deeper, more meaningful ones. Learn some of the language patterns used by hypnotists and other effective communicators.
Clean Language
Our brains process an incredible amount of information through the use of metaphor (comparing one thing against another). When you listen carefully to the words we use, you will begin to notice how often metaphor is used in conversation.